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30 lines
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#+SETUPFILE: setup.org
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#+keywords: advice relationships people
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#+subtitle:
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* How (and why) to let people fail
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Warning: This, like most things, will involve a fair bit of projection.
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Effective and enjoyable collaboration with other people requires mutual trust.
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I believe that for someone to feel trusted by another person then they need the space to fail.
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I _think_ this is obvious when considering what not having the space to fail looks like.
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Not having the space to fail means your collaborator is doing one of two things:
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1. Directing every action you take a.k.a. micromanaging
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2. Coming behind you and redoing all of your work
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Both of these are attempts by the other person to minimize risk (or simply cases where they're failing to manage their own anxieties).
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These actions are counter productive to fostering trust and should be avoided unless failure is too costly.
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I'm _not_ saying all collaboration _requires_ building trust. There are times when you simply can't afford failure or mistakes.
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What I am saying is that people frequently misjudge the value in deliberately giving others the space to fail for the sake of fostering trust.
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Building trust is important and we should do it deliberately.
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